Rediscover Love: Couple Therapy
With A Proven Success Rate
“We know that love makes us vulnerable, but also that we are never as safe and as strong as when we are sure we are loved.” – Sue Johnson
If you are like most people, your intimate relationship is complex. Even resilient partnerships require some effort to reconcile the ups with the downs. Sometimes relationships fall out of balance, and what used to be your safe haven may feel more like a battlefield. From heated screaming matches and blame games—to icy silence and emotional withdrawal—the pain of a relationship in distress causes so much suffering we can begin to feel hopeless and stuck.
Of course some amount of stress in a relationship is normal. However, when relationship stress becomes destructive, the support of a trained therapist can help you get un-stuck and even uncover the hidden strengths of your relationship.
If conflict, hostility, and turmoil have replaced the safety, security, and connection that you and your partner once felt, it is time to seek compassionate, professional support. No matter how bad your situation may seem, couple therapy can help you and your partner navigate your way back to each other’s loving embrace.
More Than Hope: Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples Delivers Results
Choosing the right therapist and couple therapy approach can make your relationship even more satisfying – and more joyful – than it was before the conflict began. Emotionally Focused Therapy is a scientifically proven couple therapy technique with a 75% success rate for intimate couples. 90% of participants report more satisfaction with their relationship than before they participated in Emotionally Focused Therapy.
With the help of a therapist trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy, you and your partner will be empowered to identify when you engage in destructive patterns, learn to step out of the downward spiral, and meet each other with emotional tenderness and respect. No matter how shattered your relationship may feel, or the content of your disagreements, Emotionally Focused Therapy can help you reestablish emotional safety and secure bonds while reconnecting with the person with whom you fell in love.
The desire for a safe emotional tie with our partner is as natural as a child’s need to bond with his or her mother. Research on attachment theory, conducted by John Bowlby in the 1950s – and still relevant today – illustrates that this innate need for connection begins when we are infants and continues throughout our lifespan. When our emotional bond with our partner is secure we feel safe, comfortable, and even more autonomous. On the other hand, if the bond with our partner feels threatened in some way, we become distressed, and may lash out in anger and blame or withdraw in protest. Emotionally Focused Therapy can help you and your partner turn future conflicts into opportunities to strengthen your bond. Together, you and your partner will learn how to recognize and interrupt the cycle of hostility and blame, and learn how to foster a deeper emotional connection. “Key moments of change” in Emotionally Focused Therapy create moments of secure bonding, where you and your partner will learn to treat each other’s distress signals with care and love rather than hostility. This shift from reacting to responding can help you and your partner to learn how to reach for each other again.
“Today, we have a revolutionary new perspective on romantic love, one that is optimistic and practical. Grounded in science, it reveals that love is vital to our existence. And far from being unfathomable, love is exquisitely logical and understandable. What’s more, it is adaptive and functional. Even better, it is malleable, repairable, and durable. In short, we now comprehend, finally and irrefutably, that love makes ‘sense.’ The word derives from the Latin sentire, meaning ‘to perceive, feel, or know,’ and also ‘to find one’s way.’ And that is why I have called this book Love Sense. I intend for it to help you find your way to more fulfilling and lasting love.”― Sue Johnson, Love Sense: The Revolutionary New Science of Romantic Relationships
The subject of Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples is addressed in two books by Dr. Johnson, Love Sense (2013) and Hold Me Tight (2008), which are supportive guidebooks that may provide additional support to couples engaged in Emotionally Focused Therapy couples counseling.
Is Emotionally Focused Therapy for You?
No matter how strained your relationship, there is love beneath the rubble waiting to be salvaged. This type of couple therapy works for people in all stages of the relationship cycle. * Whether you are dating, living as a couple, engaged, married, gay or straight, Laurie McNeil and Emotionally Focused Therapy can help.
*This type of therapy is not appropriate for people with untreated addictions, untreated mental illness, couples who are actively violent (including verbal and/or physical abuse), or those who are currently engaged in long-term extramarital affairs.
Reconnect With Your Partner
It is possible to have a happy, healthy, and emotionally secure relationship with the person you love. Although reconnecting with your partner may be hard to imagine right now, it is possible with Emotionally Focused Therapy.